February 22, 2022 Military service members, veterans, and their families are celebrated for their commitment to service of our nation and the sacrifices that come along with that commitment. The sentiment “thank you for your service” Is synonymous with “thank you for your sacrifice”. During our time of service we likely grew into warriors but we did so at the risk of not being mothers and fathers, husbands and wives, sisters and brothers to the families that we left behind. And while some people sacrificed time with their loved ones others sacrificed everything. No one gets anywhere without sacrifice. The very nature of time, energy and attention is that where we direct it will likely grow and see progress. As a result of turning our resources toward something it naturally must come away from something else. In the civilian world the stakes are often lower. It’s not life or death though it may feel that way. Perhaps the best any one of us can hope for is to align our limited resources of time, energy and attention to the things we value most. Thus allowing the sacrifices to be in areas that we value less. Where this becomes a problem in my humble opinion is when the thing we sacrifice is our health for health is the very thing that we draw our energy to serve from. Lose it and we have nothing to give. What are you sacrificing? If your answer is nothing either you’ve either fooled yourself; justify the sacrifice; or are simply unaware. Which one is it? Fool yourself and you will likely say something like “my time, energy and resources are aligned perfectly with my values” or perhaps “this is an impossible riddle”. Justify and the voice inside your head may tell you “the things you’re missing out on have no value to you”. If that’s true… that sounds lovely. If you’re unaware I fear you may be settling for sacrifices that may not need to be made at a costly expense. Again if it comes in the way of your health I worry that you are under cutting the very source of energy that could provide for you and your loved ones. Killing the fabled goose that lays the golden eggs. Health is a precious commodity and is available to us all for a limited time. We may test it and push it lower on the priority list for only so long before we can not reclaim it. I do not write this to pass judgment on you for how you live your life. Rather I write them as an amplifier of the voice of health and happiness that may loom in your subconscious. Check in with these voices. I hope they lead to sparks of curiosity and consideration in those who may not have sat with these questions. I am by no means the standard bearer. In retrospect my own resources used to be 180 degrees from my values. Today after some realignment I’m on course and can now accept that my sacrifice has come in the way of earning more money. I have turned down opportunities to earn more so that I could remain flexible to be with my family and friends and to follow my heart‘s passion when the opportunities present themselves. My values are family, service to others health and personal freedom… in that order. I would sacrifice my life for my girls but everything else must fall in line behind them. Do what you will with your time, energy, and resources but do so conscious of the sacrifices you make each day. I challenge you to ensure that your commitment of resources aligns with your values and that your sacrifices are not made needlessly. For evaluation of your own values and resources try the viacharacter.org survey. It will take you about 15 minutes but may save you years of needless sacrifice. For help aligning your actions contact me at www.livebaancefit.com. Be Well, Garrett Stangel, MA, ACSM EP-C, ACE CMES/HC Health, Performance and Lifestyle Coach Balance Fitness / 9 Round Fitness www.livebalancefit.com
March 21, 2023 “Before fixing what you’re looking at, check what you’re looking through. It was a beautiful sun filled day. I had driven 300 miles to see her. She was ninety- and had been in one room for close to eight months. I was her first-born grandson and she was so happy to see me. But after catching up, we sat in silence on the edge of her bed, and finally, she complained how gray a day it was. I realized then that her one window hadn’t been cleaned in almost a year. When I said this, she chuckled, as only someone of ninety-four can, and uttered with her Russian accent, “Got a dirty eye, see a dirty world.” It is the same with our minds and hearts. For our very self is the one window we have into this life. And so often we suffer the mood of a dirty window, believing the brilliant world gray. Perhaps the purpose of an authentic relationship is to help each other keep our minds and hearts clear. Perhaps inner work is the ordinary art of window washing, so that the day is fully the day.” This story and so many more in the world of philosophy challenge us to see the world through new eyes. As we departed 2019, I read so much on social media of people talking about how bad 2019 was only to usher in the covid era in 2020. After nearly a year of social distancing, civil unrest, and seemingly eternal fires, the social media posts read good riddens to 2020 hoping for a better 2021. And now, here we are in 2021 with attacks on the US capitol, new covid strains, record low temperatures and accompanied power outages. The hits keep rolling. If we are looking through a dirty eye, that may be all that we can see. This world has seen and endured worse. From the black death and multiple flu pandemics to civil and world wars struggle is nothing new to this planet and its human inhabitants. And while these disasters are all consuming when they occur, they are not the totality of the human experience even at their height. The sun rises again seemingly more brilliant than the last and there is more color and life to live if we choose to see it. Can you see it? Even when we are isolated, there is irrepressible love of friends, family, and even pets that cannot be denied. When we look more closely we can see the union of people joining to oppose injustice and disease and we see random acts of kindness, random acts of humanity on the rise to battle against violence and fear. Can you see it? Clean your windows. Look today for what is right rather than what is wrong. In this moment, can you name three things you are grateful for? Seriously, stop reading and take a pause to be grateful. How does your head and your heart feel when you pause for gratitude? Step in and look a little closer to see the truly amazing little things that are right now. Or step back and look at the big picture. At any given moment there is likely more right than wrong with the world. Keep that perspective in mind. Be Well, Garrett Stangel, MA Health and Performance Coach For more help managing the stress of the day, check out some of our other blogs or reach out to a health coach to learn how to cultivate your own sunshine.